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It’s 6 a.m. and the phone is ringing, the alarm is chirping, the kids are yelling, the computer is beeping that you’ve received e-mails during the night and you are thinking, “just give me five more minutes of calm before life sets in.”
Does this sound like your mornings? I might not have the exact scenario down, but put in your real morning activities and it may sound very similar.
Many of the people with whom I work as a professional organizer complain that there aren’t enough hours in the day, they can’t get their “to do” lists completed and they don’t have time to relax.
If you ignore the chaos, does it go away? If you decide to play now and pay later, does the chaos go away? If you actually take care of everything on your “to do” list, does the chaos go away?
For many, the answer to these questions is NO. Chaos is in our lives and, unfortunately, here to stay. But good news. That does not have to prevent you from relaxing.
My first question is: What does relaxing look like to you? Two weeks at a beach, a weekend with no obligations, or the ability to stay calm and centered in the midst of chaos?
No matter what you answer, if you do not have the ability to stay calm and centered in the midst of daily chaos, then your need for “quiet” time grows exponentially.
Many of us are not living the life we envisioned. This can cause us to grieve over the loss of what we thought of as our “ideal” life. We then use up all our time and energy trying to achieve this nirvana. If we could accept that this is the life we have, then we would be able to reclaim some of our energy and move into a more relaxed state of being.
The spirit of the individual is what gives us the ability to be enthusiastic or to relax. If your spirit is in mourning for the loss of your ideal life, then your energy is going into the mourning, not into the living. Grief or mourning can take away a person’s ability to make sound decisions. Sometimes, we could even decide to not make any decisions because we are afraid of making a mistake.
And, sometimes we can’t make a decision because we’ve used up all our available energy reviewing our past decisions or indecisions. We also deplete ourselves when we allow others’ opinions to keep us from being satisfied with our decisions.
One of the answers to this dilemma is to accept the life we have, plan for the life we want and keep making baby steps to move from today toward tomorrow. This will not be accomplished by standing still and mourning. It can be accomplished by adding one “to do” item each day or week that moves us closer to our ideal.
Sometimes it takes an outside professional, such as an organizer or a counselor, to help us implement a plan or to even make a new plan. An outsider would not be paralyzed by your past mistakes, fear or hopelessness.
Envision yourself dealing with life in calm and centered way. Now is the time to start working your plan or reaching out for help.
By Sylvia Kirks McClintick
Sylvia Kirks McClintick is a professional organizer and owner of Organized Chaos. She offers classes, programs, hands-on organizing and coaching help throughout the country. Organized Chaos offers a free needs assessment to get you started. Check out Organized Chaos at www.TameTheChaos.com. Sylvia may be contacted at (336) 548-4646 or 1-(888)-TO-CHAOS.